A few days back, I was part of a silent retreat “Head 2 Heart”, organized by Sahaj Foundation in Bir district, Himachal Pradesh, India.There, despite trying a lot, I wasn’t able to maintain silence as there were other people talking. Also, I was feeling like connecting with some of the amazing people I had around. This made me question the balance between being silent and connecting with people, both equally important aspects of life. I decided to start speaking with my fellow participants in order to understand the balance better and also, strive towards finding it.
As I was breaking the rules of the retreat, I shared my decision with the organizers of the retreat. I wanted them to understand my experiment and also, wanted their feedback on the same. Ashish, one of the organizers and a good friend, retorted to my reasoning with a beautiful sentence which summarized all the thoughts within me; He simply said: ” Nakul, the ultimate stage would be when we would be silent even while speaking”.
The more I think of this, the more I find it appropriate for life(esp. mine); Think of it, only a Jnana yogi(one who walks the path of knowledge) can attain and maintain perfect silence and seclusion for they live by their decision to stand aside and refuse to take part in any form of Maya(material world). However, for most of us who are still attached to something or another, who still have illusions of being in control, the only way forward is attempting to find silence amidst all the chaos.
Being totally silent requires going all the way, giving it all up; for there is no half way of doing it, you can’t stay with family, loved ones and not talk; If you stay in the material world, you will be involved someway or the other. Also, the opposite of it, i.e, being totally involved in the world isn’t the way too, for one loses his/her’s sense of individuality by being fully immersed in it all.To find one’s essence, one has to look within, for which silence is a must;
Thus, finding the right balance(for ourselves) between talking/connecting to people and Maintenance of Silence is extremely important. In this age(yuga), where most of us are destined to live the homely(grashtya) way of live, this I believe, might be the only thread holding us from falling deep into the worldly affairs(maya-jaal). Reaching such a stage would indeed be beautiful.
P.S: I would love to hear from you all if you have found the right balance for yourselves OR your views on either aspects of the topic. Regards 🙂